In the USA, do parents have the right to control their children's possessions?

Let's say a minor (17 or younger) living with his parents gets a job or does chores, and with the money thereby earned, buys a video game console. The parents decide that the console is not appropriate for the child and take it away. In fact, they sell it and put the money into their own bank account, with no plans to ever give it back to the child. Setting aside any question of ethics or morality, is this legal on the part of the parents? If the police are called in, will they seek to charge the parents with a crime (such as theft)? I am under the impression that there is no legal case here, as the parents are the custodians/guardians of everything for the child. Imagine a situation where the parents are very poor, and ongoingly need the fruits of their child's labor to simply put food on the table and pay for the electricity. In my mind, while parents should generally allow their children to own possessions and enjoy the fruits of their labor, they also have every right to take every last penny from their child if it is urgently needed for the basic good of the whole family. When considering this situation, perhaps it would be easier for you to think of the purchased item as something most would agree is unhealthful for the child, though not necessarily illegal for him to possess—say, a book on how to construct a bomb or on how to commit suicide. Perhaps it is a chain saw, or a gun, or a set of lawn darts, or pornography, or anything else that most/many people would recognize is good for parents to take away from their minor children, no matter where the money came from or what previous recognition there was in the family of the item's belonging to the child. In this way, please try to avoid responding from any distaste about the parents violating your personal feelings about a child's rights, as this question is specifically about the law only. I'd like to know if my impression here stands at odds with any laws or precedents that could inform me better. If a more specific jurisdiction is needed, let's hear answers from Washington state, California, Florida, and Maine. Or chime in with a few other states, so we can get an idea of what the laws are throughout the nation. Feel free to add information on laws in other countries, as well, but please try to answer the USA question first.

asked Nov 29, 2017 at 22:50 489 1 1 gold badge 4 4 silver badges 15 15 bronze badges

This is a fairly broad-ranging question; a much narrower question would be, can a parent confiscate and sell their minor child's computer. In Washington, you can't own a car until you're 18 except for rare circumstances; that kind of stuff complicates the question. There's no law prohibiting minors from owning computers.

Commented Nov 29, 2017 at 23:30 I will remove the part about a car to make the question clearer. Commented Nov 30, 2017 at 0:15

I mean it may not be illegal to take your kids stuff but you'll end up pissing off your kid and maybe even ruining part of their personality development. Say your kid has been saving up money for years to buy something expensive and right when they do you as the parent sell it and take the money for it. Number one your kid isn't going to be very happy with you in the slightest and may grow up to resent you. Or number two your kid grows up with the impression that they don't matter and no matter how hard they work for something someone else deserves it and they hand away their happiness for som

Commented Apr 16, 2020 at 0:42

Thank you for your contribution PenelopeGrave. I see someone else (not I) downvoted your answer. I think this might be because this site looks for answers to reference the law and contain content that involves some form of legal analysis of the question. Although your answer makes a lot of good points, you could improve your answer by making some reference to the law or its application to the situation described by the OP's question.

Commented Apr 16, 2020 at 10:15

@PenelopeGrave no one has suggested to randomly take children’s things. However, if I as a parent believe doing so is in the best interests of my child, I will do so. The belief in a child that he has Final, supreme authority over his possessions may be harmful in itself. It is not my job to make my children like me but to produce healthy, well-adjusted adults. I assure you my child will later thank me if I had to take something of his, and will be a better human for it, because I would only do so for his benefit.